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: Life - moving way too fast or much too slow.
Today I was eager to turn on the news this morning cuz I wanted to see if Obama won my vote in my state. Unfortunately, he didn't, but he won other states and the race is still very much neck-2-neck. Whomever wins, we need to put a democrat up into the white house b/c the Republicans believe in less govt is more govt (aka rich people up at the top get away with more cuz there is less government to control them).
Aside from that, today was also a sad day, Norman's grandmother passed away this morning. I was in shock. His grandmother went to the hospital 2 days ago but she already had fluid in her lungs... she also had emphasyma (sp?). It especially hurt me cuz I saw pics of her from Norman's Thanksgiving party and she looked alive and well. What does the death of one person in the world really mean? My professor said it doesn't really mean anything, but I beg to differ. One person touched another, and that other person will continue to touch another and so on and so forth and so once the circle is complete, we all will touch each other in some way. If you take one piece away, the chain will break...so I don't know how I feel...I am scared cuz my grandmother is old and sick and when she is in Poland no one is taking care of her like we are, I am afraid someone could rob her or hurt her...but we need to wait 2 more years until she can get full medical benefits in the USA (from her green card) so she could live with us permanently. I am worried and scared.
So here I am still at work...Steve is out today and Aakesh left as soon as he could but I am busy with work...Today I heard a very interesting conversation on the radio: What makes a woman happy?! IDK, lol... The key word was pay attention to us! Here is a list:
When you gf comes home from work and is all stressed out:
* Make eye contact and ask what happened.
* Pay attention to what she is saying, occasionally nod your head, agree and say I understand (nothing more nothing less---it is all about you listening to her)
* Ignore ALL interuptions (cell phones, other people etc)
* Try to solve the problem WITH the gf not FOR HER
* Teach your gf your problem solving skills/offer quick feedback
* Resist mocking her problem
* BIG ONE: use facial expressions and body language and always keep eye contact!!!
* Lastly, if it is hard to give advice or you must use a lot of words, DO NOT, the best thing you can do is just LISTEN, say I UNDERSTAND and DO NOT give your advice. Also then SAY IS THERE ANYTHING YOU'D like HONEY?! A hot bath? A movie? Can I get you anything?
Of course a man wrote that list, but it does seem like it should work.
Today I was eager to turn on the news this morning cuz I wanted to see if Obama won my vote in my state. Unfortunately, he didn't, but he won other states and the race is still very much neck-2-neck. Whomever wins, we need to put a democrat up into the white house b/c the Republicans believe in less govt is more govt (aka rich people up at the top get away with more cuz there is less government to control them).
Aside from that, today was also a sad day, Norman's grandmother passed away this morning. I was in shock. His grandmother went to the hospital 2 days ago but she already had fluid in her lungs... she also had emphasyma (sp?). It especially hurt me cuz I saw pics of her from Norman's Thanksgiving party and she looked alive and well. What does the death of one person in the world really mean? My professor said it doesn't really mean anything, but I beg to differ. One person touched another, and that other person will continue to touch another and so on and so forth and so once the circle is complete, we all will touch each other in some way. If you take one piece away, the chain will break...so I don't know how I feel...I am scared cuz my grandmother is old and sick and when she is in Poland no one is taking care of her like we are, I am afraid someone could rob her or hurt her...but we need to wait 2 more years until she can get full medical benefits in the USA (from her green card) so she could live with us permanently. I am worried and scared.
So here I am still at work...Steve is out today and Aakesh left as soon as he could but I am busy with work...Today I heard a very interesting conversation on the radio: What makes a woman happy?! IDK, lol... The key word was pay attention to us! Here is a list:
When you gf comes home from work and is all stressed out:
* Make eye contact and ask what happened.
* Pay attention to what she is saying, occasionally nod your head, agree and say I understand (nothing more nothing less---it is all about you listening to her)
* Ignore ALL interuptions (cell phones, other people etc)
* Try to solve the problem WITH the gf not FOR HER
* Teach your gf your problem solving skills/offer quick feedback
* Resist mocking her problem
* BIG ONE: use facial expressions and body language and always keep eye contact!!!
* Lastly, if it is hard to give advice or you must use a lot of words, DO NOT, the best thing you can do is just LISTEN, say I UNDERSTAND and DO NOT give your advice. Also then SAY IS THERE ANYTHING YOU'D like HONEY?! A hot bath? A movie? Can I get you anything?
Of course a man wrote that list, but it does seem like it should work.
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